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An Epiphany: The Foundation of Marriage or a Relationship (After reading this epistle, please click on this link and listen to "The Repairer of the Breach and the Paths to Dwell In"; it will expound more on this epistle and give greater understanding )
Written by Leon Teamer
Co-authors: Ron Teamer, Jessica Teamer, and Jennifer Teamer
“The voice of him that crieth in the wilderness, Prepare ye the way of the LORD, make straight in the desert a highway for our God. Every valley shall be exalted, and every mountain and hill shall be made low: and the crooked shall be made straight and the rough places plain: And the glory of the LORD shall be revealed, and all flesh shall see it together: for the mouth of the LORD hath spoken it” [Isaiah 40:3-5]
“The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand: repent ye, and believe the gospel” [Mark 1:15]
Praise be unto God that has the power to establish us in this gospel of An Epiphany: The
Foundation of Marriage or a Relationship, which once was kept hid in God since the beginning of the world, has now been made known unto us through the scriptures by the prophets of old. We certify you that this revelation was given unto us not according to the traditions of man neither were we taught this through the religious system, but by the Holy Spirit of God. God has granted us the right to reveal these unsearchable riches, that all may be obedient to this present day truth; that all may come from under the traditions of our forefathers, which were imposed upon us until the time of restoration of all things. These traditions that governed marriage/relationship were our school master, who God in times past and present suffered all nations to walk in them, but now by the Spirit of Life He is calling all people to repent and return back to the covenant promise that He established before the curse of Adam. We bare witness of this gospel, because we too once lived in a fallacy to what the true essence of a marriage/relationship contained. For this cause, we have the boldness to speak unto the sons and daughters of men the mystery of the office of the husband and the wife; that the men and women that God has chosen should be fellow heirs and partakers of the covenant promise that was first made unto Adam before his transgression in the Garden of
Has anyone close to you ever told you that your marriage or relationship changed you for the worst? How often have you heard or said these statements: “You’ve got to work at your marriage”; “I didn’t know it was going to be this challenging”;“He or she doesn’t understand me”; “My needs are not being met”; or better yet,“I love you, but love is just not enough.” Are you like a zombie, going through the motions of companionship with your heart unattached? Do you walk around dazed as if you are under a “spell”; knowing that something is greatly missing or wrong in the marriage or relationship, but you cannot pinpoint how you got yourself into this mess? Do you consume all your time and efforts trying to figure it out, but to no avail, so you then end up blaming each other and God for your failed marriage or relationship? Are you unhappy, arguing all the time, unfulfilled, lacking intimacy in your marriage, and emotionally fatigued? Are your finances like a seesaw: going up and down, down and up? Has your marriage or relationship altered your personality to the point that you have become a stranger unto yourself and others? Do you drink, smoke, or take drugs frequently just to get through a day of your marriage or relationship? Have you become sick or ill during the course of your marriage or relationship? And has your family endured much grief and sorrow because of your marriage or relationship? Well, these are the true signs of the thorns and the thistles that come from an unrighteous marriage or relationship. Now you might be saying to yourself,“what is an unrighteous marriage or relationship?” Well, let’s start from the beginning with Adam in the Garden of Eden…
Adam and Eve: The Insurrection
In the beginning was the Word and the Word was God. And with His Word, God created the heavens, the earth, and all of its hosts. And in God dwelled the Spirit of Life, which was the light of Adam. For “when there were no depths and while as yet God had not made the earth, or the fields, or the highest part of the dust of the world, the Spirit of life was brought forth… it was by God, as one brought up with Him: and it was daily His delight, rejoicing always before Him.” For truly, truly we say unto you: Adam, the son of God, could do nothing of himself but what the Spirit of Life showed unto him and whatsoever He showed him, Adam did likewise. It was a lamp unto his feet and a light unto his path, that he should not stumble in darkness but have the Light of Life. For the Father loved Adam and showed him all things that He did. Thus, Adam had no need of the light of the sun nor the light of the moon, for God was his guiding light. And because Adam delighted in the light, the Father crowned him with glory and honor, and made him the head over all of his works. And God seeing that it was not good for Adam to be alone, He promised him a wife; so that they may share in the glory of God’s creation. Then with bountiful joy Adam said “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
But sadly, Adam began to delight in the glory of Eve more than the Creator. And like a sheep that turned from his shepherd, Adam strayed away from the guiding light of his Father to fulfill the desires of his flesh and mind; thereby changing the glory of the incorruptible God into a corruptible image. Adam no longer believed God for His word’s sake, but tested Him; he became vain in his imagination and his foolish heart was darkened, believing that the love he had for Eve was above the commandments of the Everlasting God. Adam shouldn’t have gambled; for he disregarded God as being the source of his light. When Adam broke God’s commandment to appease Eve, he submitted unto her desires and forsook the light; and like the light on a candle that slowly burns out, so did the light fade from Adam and Eve.
Now we would not have you ignorant, Adam and Eve was a “chosen”couple and as long as they continued in God’s commandments their marriage would have remained in bliss. Thus, being in a righteous marriage/relationship does not give you the right to disobey God’s commandments. When Adam and Eve sinned, it opened the Gates of Hell and caused a domino effect to take place; their disobedience paved the way unto mankind disobeying God. The world became unclean and alienated from the mind of God: for the mind of God is pure and holy; free from all unrighteousness and uncleanliness. And as you continue to read you will see how this led unto unrighteous marriages/relationships…
When the light faded from Adam and Eve, God gave them over to a degenerate mind to do things which will not profit them: they became hypocrites, false witnesses, pointers of the finger, double-talkers, unrepented covenant-breakers, and whitewashers. And for this cause God brought forth the curse: “And unto Adam He said, because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life; Thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field; In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it was thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return.” Adam and Eve introduced the spirit of error, false ambition, and lying motivesinto God’s creation; thereby opening the gate into darkness and passing all these degenerate behaviors down unto those that yielded to these behaviors; causing them to walk according to the course of these behaviors, and by nature became the children of wrath. Thereby creating the pathway that leads unto unrighteous marriages and relationships... (Now, we are going to stop here and pick back up on this section in a later chapter).
The Husband and the Wife
“Except God builds the house (marriage, relationship, family, or nation), they that labor to build it are laboring in vain” [Psalm 127:1]
In the beginning, God made the promise to Adam that he would build or compose a helper suitable for him, that she may help him in the project that God gave to him. So God created Eve for Adam to assist him and to encourage Adam in God's project. Adam did not choose
Eve, and Eve did not choose Adam, the pairing of mates is totally God's domain, not OURS. As it is written, whom God joins together let no man separate, not whom we choose. The responsibility of the man is to get on his knees and seek God’s face that He might reveal to the man a divine project or commission. Most people say that they want to marry because they are in love, they don’t want to be alone, and/or they want to raise a family. These longings are not the reason why one should get married or be in a relationship, they have their place (don’t get me wrong), but they are not the core of a marriage or a relationship. The first foundation of the man and the woman is to do the “will” of God; the man has a divine commission and the woman is brought in to assist him. It makes no sense for the man to ask God for a wife without first having a God given commission or project. The man must first know his true identity in God and where he fits into God’s eternal plan, and then God will test and try him so that he might be proven worthy of this sacred position. After he has been tested and found faithful, then and only then is he to ask God for a wife that is suitable for him. If you read in Genesis, God did not promise Adam a wife suitable for him until Adam received a divine commission from God (to dress and keep the Garden of Eden). God will then build and prepare a suitable wife and bring her to the man for examination. The woman is to fit the inner and outer profile of the man. The woman was formed from the rib of man to aid, to assist, and to protect the vital treasured commission of the man and his inheritance. This is a very significant and honorable position for the woman and for her to enter into it unworthy and haphazardly is a tragedy. Her God given longings and dreams are interlaced in the man’s divine commission. They both work together towards a common goal: to please God and to guard their sacred union.
Furthermore, it is also the woman’s responsibility to seek God’s face for her true identity and what areas in her feminine nature God needs to bring forth and develop, in order to be in
rhythm with her future mate. God said that the woman was made for the man and not the man for the woman. Also, there must be a period of preparation for her assigned position. Adam said, “That this new helper (assistant) is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh, she shall be called woman". He is revealing through this statement that the woman is an absolute replica, a carbon copy, a facsimile, a true representation, and the exact likeness of his inner and outer nature. In other words, the woman’s spirit MUST be related and complement the man’s spirit. The woman’s God assigned position or occupation MUST coincide and complement the man’s field or occupation. God will not give the man a commission or project to perform, and then give the wife a position in a field that is totally unrelated to her husband. If they are in two unrelated fields, then the house is divided against itself; the wife would be out of rhythm and harmony with her husband. How then can she complement and aid him? Hence, Adam stated that for this purpose (because alike counter-part has appeared) a man shall now leave the house of his nativity and join the woman (now wife) in oneness. However if the woman does not meet these criteria of being the exact likeness of the man’s inner and outer nature, he is not to unite together with her because she being of a different inner and outer likeness does not belong to him; she is a stranger, an imposter, or an intruder (this will be explained more later in this chapter).
A husband and wife are God appointed positions, no one takes these honored positions by their own free-will, neither does the man or the woman come up with a clever plan in the
pursuit of a mate. God gave a covenant promise to the man (no one works for a promise, for if it is by works than it is no more a gift); for we receive all things from God by grace through faith and that not of ourselves, but is the gift of God not of works lest any man should boast or take the credit for. The woman or wife is a gift from God, and no one works for a gift. If we do this any other way, then we are thieves and robbers and God will NOT honor it. Jesus said every tree that my Father did not plant will be rooted up; if we labor, scheme, plan, and plot to find a mate and then marry, rest assured God will pluck it up, because the will of man is a filthy rag before God. This is God’s holy procedure, the way that He has established the husband and the wife positions. We do not marry and then work feverishly on our marriage to become one; we marry because we are one. Marriage is an open declaration of an inner living reality of genuine oneness; otherwise in God’s sight our so-called marriage is a sham, a false appearance, a fabrication of darkness, and an empty concept that is void of the truth. If we lay any other foundation that God did not lay He will burn it up, this is why there are so many divorces and shattered romances. On top of this, others are coaching and cheering them on to have faith and God will see them through their crisis. Have faith in WHAT??? Our hopes and dreams (whom we choose to marry or date) and then pray to God and tell Him what we want (e.g., “God please save my marriage or relationship”), and then have FAITH that He heard us. Faith is belief in GOD’S AIM, PURPOSE, GOAL, and PLAN (his appointed spouse for us). Faith comes by hearing (understanding), hearing by the Word of God. God first has to make known a revelation of His will to us and we then have the assurance that He is able to perform what He has revealed, and that assurance is called belief. Faith and prayer are not given unto us so that we may communicate our wishes unto God, but that God may communicate His wishes unto us. As the Holy Word states, “Our Father who art in heaven, Holy is Your name, Your kingdom come, Your WILL be DONE in the earth, as it is in heaven”. Faith and prayer are communication tools. Once God has conveyed HIS WISHES unto us then we may ask Him for all that we need in order to carry out and to fulfill HIS WISHES; God will then give us His WISDOM and UNDERSTANDING, HIS DETERMINATION, and supplies. It will be God working in us both to do His will and to perform HIS GOOD PLEASURE. This is why there are so many unanswered prayers, because people don’t know the true definition of faith, and they are having faith in something that God did not ordain in the first place. As it is written, “This is the confidence (strong conviction) that we have in God, that if we ask anything according to His will (plan) He will hear us; and if we know that He hears us whatsoever we ask we know that we have the petitions that we desire of Him”; “You lust and have not, you envy and desire to have and cannot obtain; you fight and war, yet you have not because you ask not. You ask and receive not, because you ask amiss (wrongly and out of order) that you may consume it upon your own lusts (your dreams and ambitions)". Jesus said that He came not to do His own will but the will of Him that sent him, this was Jesus’s driving force; His meat or His nourishment was to do the will of God, this is the same attitude the man must have!! This attitude in the man is what attracts the woman; to see a man rooted and grounded in his God given commission is very attractive to the woman’s feminine nature, because it is in her nature to help the man with this commission. For example, God told Adam to till the Garden of Eden; he heard it and then had faith in what he heard. If God didn’t reveal His will to us, then why have faith in something that God had no part in; for the end result of our will is death.
And because the wife is a gift, the husband must bring her before the wedding altar; the wedding altar is where the husband (a priest) is offering the gift of God (the wife) back to God as a thanksgiving and tithe offering for His blessed favor. Will a man then rob God in this tithe and offering, by offering an unrighteous gift to God? When a man robs God of His offerings then he is cursed with a curse. The wedding altar is for worshipping God and not man. If God did not ordain this union, then this unrighteous marriage is idolatry (the worshipping of the works of man’s hands). God commanded Aaron and the priests of Israel to bring Him an uncontaminated offering; the offering had to be without blemish, cuts, scabs, and bruises. If they did not obey this commandment God did not accept their offerings. In like manner, God is commanding the husband to bring a pure offering before Him upon the wedding altar. God is a Great King, we cannot bring before Him anything that is unrighteous, unholy, or unclean; this is an abomination and a stench in His nostrils. Moreover, a husband cannot offer upon the wedding altar a strange wife unto God. A strange wife in God’s vernacular is a woman whose inner feminine nature is unrelated, unsuited and ill-equipped, displaced, not in rhythm with, and does not comply with the inner masculine nature of the husband. If a man marries a strange wife this constitutes in God’s sight as a mixed marriage (the mingling of the male and the female that have two different spiritual natures or who are not kindred spirits). A mixed marriage to God is not two different races joined together. This has nothing to do with the mingling of different races together; God is a Spirit, His emphasis is in the spirit nature of a person and their God appointed position and not the outward appearance. You can be of the same race and not be kindred spirits; you can be of the same race and still have envying, strife, discord, division, and divorces.
This is the reason why God commanded Israel of old not to mingle different seeds together and sow them in the same field; He told Israel if they do this then they would defile the vineyard (marriage) and the fruit (offspring) that comes from that field. God also commanded Israel not to yoke an ox and an ass together to plow a field; not to take a wool cloth and a linen cloth and sew them together to make a garment, and not to let the cattle gender with diverse kind. Why? Because these things have different inner natures and are created for different purposes. God is teaching us by these righteous precepts not to mix things together that are not in likeness in spirit, in nature, and in purpose. The result will produce chaos, discord, and mayhem, because this will create things that have two unlike natures residing within. These two unlike natures will compete against each other for supremacy; fighting and lusting for expression. Mixed marriages/relationships (the joining of unrelated spirits) are one of the main causes of homosexuality, gender confusion, juvenile delinquency, criminal behaviors, mental disorders, drug addiction, alcoholism, violence of all kinds, and etc. As it is written, “The fathers have eaten sour grapes and the children teeth are set on edge"; “An evil tree cannot produce good fruit". This is one precept that God was teaching Adam and Eve when He instructed them not to partake of the fruit from the tree of knowledge of good and evil. Why, because this tree is a tree of mixture, mixing things of incompatible natures. Evil to God is anything that is out of harmony; that doesn’t flow in oneness. When Adam and Eve partook of the forbidden knowledge of good and evil they passed this confused knowledge unto their offspring. This is why mankind unwisely mixes unsuitable things together (especially relationships) that destroys creation and humanity. For this reason, God had to curse the ground of mankind’s understanding; the human soul. God wants mankind to abandon and flee from our intellect of mixing unsuitable things together and come back to the Tree of Life (the tree of knowledge of oneness); and live in peace, harmony, prosperity, and everlasting wellness.
Furthermore, marriage is a part of the holy communion of God, and it is a part of God’s new everlasting covenant. Therefore, if anyone partakes of this sacred communion and covenant
unworthy, unfit, and out of God’s established order then that person will be guilty of the body and the blood of Jesus Christ. This unholy act will bring God’s damnation or judgment upon the members of that guilty family. For this cause many husbands, wives, and children experience weakness, sickness, and even death; especially the males of that family, because the covenant promise was made unto the man.
Marriage is one of the most holy things we can do on this earth, because we have made a covenant with God and one another. Marriage is a good and holy position; it must be approached with thoughtful consideration and strong conviction; relishing in the truth of its value. To do otherwise in carelessness and ignorance is to destroy or dismantle the very foundation in which God established marriage. Everything that God has created in heaven and on earth is regulated and governed by laws and principles. These prescribed laws and principles of God are like shepherds watching over their flocks, leading the flocks beside the living waters and into greener pastures. God prescribes these principles and laws to ensure the wellness of all of His creation. The male and the female relationships and the husband and the wife relationships are no different; they also are governed by God’s prescribed protocols. How absurd we are to think for one moment that we can experience fulfillment and delightful satisfaction from these relationships, and at the same time neglect God’s principles that governs them. If anyone is in a relationship, married, or even thinking about being married, let them sorely seek God’s face with prayer and fasting; examine themselves to see whether they have erred from the faith or if they are following God’s righteous protocol; his foundation of which He established marriage before the world was.
Thus, hearken ye sons and daughters of men and return unto the Lord… “Seek ye the LORD while He may be found, call ye upon Him while He is near: Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and He will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for He will abundantly pardon. For My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways, saith the LORD. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts… Ho every one that thirsteth, come ye to the waters, and he that hath no money; come ye, buy, and eat; yea, come, buy wine and milk without money and without price. Wherefore do ye spend money for that which is not bread? and your labour for that which satisfieth not? hearken diligently unto me, and eat ye that which is good, and let your soul delight itself in fatness. Incline your ear, and come unto Me: hear, and your soul shall live; and I will make an everlasting covenant with you, even the sure mercies of David.” God’s codes of conduct are higher than our ways, as heaven is higher than the earth. He judges and weighs everything according to His standard and scale of measurements. His righteousness is exactness; not admitting or allowing any deviation from His standard or guideline. He is very thorough in His affairs and works with great precision in all of His handiwork. With boundless wisdom, understanding, and creative imagination, God meticulously calculated, weighed, and measured out everything that He created down to the inch degree; nothing was left to chance or probability. Thus, if God: meticulously placed every blade of grass or tree in its habitation for a purpose; numbered the hairs on our head, the stars in heaven, and the sand upon the seashore; has measured and weighed the mountains, the hills, and every grain of dust on a scale; has tilted the earth with His hand upon its axle at a precise degree, so that the earth may enjoy its seasons; and has faithfully guided the planets in our galaxy around the sun, so that we may have a precise measurement for time. Then how much more thoughtful consideration is involved in God’s sacred pairing of the mates in which a family and a nation are established upon.
To Be Continued... (There is much to write but as it is written, "For precept [must be] upon precept, precept upon precept; line upon line, line upon line; here a little, [and] there a little..."
 Romans 8:1-8
 Matthew 19:4-6, 11-12; Romans 12:4 (marriage is
only given to them whom God has chosen to occupy this office; although there are
“many members of the body of creation, all do not have
the same office”. So, only God can appoint a man and woman to occupy the office of husband and wife; we cannot appoint these honorable positions
 Likened unto Isaac and Rebekah did with Esau’s wives; Genesis 26:34-35; 27:46
 Mankind doesn’t live by bread alone, but by every word of God; Luke 4:4
 Proverbs 8:24-30
 Psalm 16:11; Psalm 18:32
 Genesis 2:23-24
 e.g., Eve’s beauty
 Romans 1:25
 Tried God’s hand of judgment
 James 3:17-18
 To use deceptive words or actions to cover up or conceal one’s faults, errors, or wrongdoings; to cover with fig leaves [Genesis 3:7]
 Romans 1:29-31; Galatians 5:16-23
 Adam and Eve now had to learn obedience by the things that they suffered
 God wanted them to only eat from the Tree of Life, because they were “babes” still drinking “milk”, and the tree of knowledge of good and evil was “meat”; which they were not mature enough to partake of [Hebrew 5:13-14]
 Genesis 3:17-19
 To go against God’s righteousness or not believing God for His word’s sake, but trying His hand of judgment
 Romans 6:16
 Children under the curse
 Genesis 6:1-3, 5-7; mankind began to choose their own mates and God became angry with them; you will also see this again in Ezra chapters 9 and 10
 assistant, aid
 Genesis 2:15-17
 I Corinthians 11:8–9
 Revelations 21:2
 Genesis 2:23
 Genesis 2:24
 unearned favor
 Family tree, marriage, etc...
 Read Ezra chapters 9 and 10
 Matthew 6:9-10
 Philippians 2:13
 I John 5:14-15
 James 4:2-3
 His own thing
 plan, project, commission
 Thorns and thistles; pains and sorrows; spiritual and/or physical death
 Malachi 2:2
 A chosen wife; a kindred
 Malachi 1:1-14, 2:1-17
 Ezekiel 18:2
 Luke 6:43
 the place that houses the free-will, emotions, and mind
 Leviticus 26:21-24; Deuteronomy 28:59–63
(Read all of Leviticus 26 and Deuteronomy 28, because they deal with the blessings and the curses of disobedience)
 Therapy; marriage counseling and other things to rekindle your marriage
 God’s counsel; His precepts
 Isaiah 55:1-3, 6-9
 Liken unto the rolling of dice or Russian roulette
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